At the age of 16, most of us have to choose which university we want to go to and which career path we would like to pursue. Furthermore, we are taught that this decision is monumental towards our futures. This huge life choice decides how we will spend our time, our hours, and basically the rest of our lives.
After graduating, and going through those prescribed and prearranged steps, I realized something. This is something that the planner in me has taken me awhile to come to terms with, but I’ve accepted it.
I’ve learned that it’s okay to be unsure.
It’s okay to not have it all figured out. At age 25, I’ve realized that I’m a pretty good teacher. Maybe that is something I would like to continue to pursue in the future. However, I’m also open to change. I think the worst mistake that older people make is getting stuck. They think that just because they have done something a certain way up until this point, that’s how they must continue to act for the rest of their lives.
They’ve stopped evolving.
Now that I’ve seen things from this different perspective, I realize how ridiculous it is that we have to make these life choices at 16. Very, very few people know what they want out of life at that age. The reality is that no one really has it figured out. There are 4o year-olds who don’t have it figured out. They either haven’t realized what their passion is or they have chosen convenience and comfort over pursuing their callings.
It’s important to remember that we can’t plan out our lives. At 16, I never would have guessed that I would be teaching kindergarten in Seoul, South Korea. I didn’t even like kids at that point in my life. When you leave your life unplanned, that means you leave every option open. If you meticulously plan out every detail, you’re stuck thinking of the future in a box that you’ve created for yourself.
When you wake up with this realization that you absolutely must choose your passions over all the ‘shoulds’ in your life, the choices become easy. Your path becomes laid out without even trying. If you’re not sure what your passion is, ask yourself what you would do if there were no obligations in your life. What voice lingers in the back of your head? What is your heart telling you?
So, people are asking you “What do you want to do?” or “What do you do for work?” like it’s the only thing that defines you. We are so, so much more then what we do. If we choose to pursue our callings over this tangible idea of money and status, I believe that we will find true happiness. Doing the things we love makes us happy. No amount of money or status can compete with that. If we choose to follow and pursue our passions, the universe will align itself in accordance to our desires. If you are truly doing what makes you happy, you won’t need a set plan. Happiness will become the plan, and your dreams will follow.